Saturday 5 July 2014
front of service sheet
inside the service sheet
THE PINES, HOUGHTON BAY
FRIDAY, 4 JULY 2014
AT 1.00 PM
OFFICIATING
FRIDAY, 4 JULY 2014
AT 1.00 PM
OFFICIATING
Brian Ross jp
COMMENCING SONG
My Ain Folk – Alex Sutherland Singers
WELCOME AND OPENING WORDS
REMEMBERING LES AND FAMILY MEMORIES
OPEN TRIBUTES
The family invite you to share your personal memories of Les
VERSE
When I’m Gone
Read by Heather McKay
When I come to the end of my journey and I travel my last weary mile.
Just forget if you can any frowns and remember only my smile.
Forget any dark words I have spoken, but remember the good I have done.
Forget that there ever was heartache, just remember the laughter and fun.
Forget that I stumbled and blundered and sometimes fell by the way.
Remember I have fought some hard battles and won some, by the close of the day.
So do not grieve for my going, don’t be sad for a day
But in summer just gather some flowers and come to the place where I lay
And then in the shade of evening, when the sun paints the sky in the west.
Stand for a moment beside me and remember only my best.
TIME OF REFLECTION AND MUSIC
Amazing Grace – The Regimental Band Pipes & Drums of the
Royal Scots Dragoon Guards
THANKSGIVING AND THE LORD’S PRAYER
Our Father, who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name;
Thy Kingdom come; Thy will be done; on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses,
As we forgive them that trespass against us
And lead us not into temptation; but deliver us from evil.
For Thine is the Kingdom, The power and the glory, for ever and ever. Amen.
VERSE
On a Friend
An honest man here lies at rest,
As with God his image blessed.
The friend of man, the friend of truth,
The friend of age and guide of youth.
Few hearts like his with virtue warm’d
Few heads with knowledge so informed
If there’s another world he lives in bliss
If there is none, he made the best of this.
Robbie Burns
An honest man here lies at rest,
As with God his image blessed.
The friend of man, the friend of truth,
The friend of age and guide of youth.
Few hearts like his with virtue warm’d
Few heads with knowledge so informed
If there’s another world he lives in bliss
If there is none, he made the best of this.
Robbie Burns
CLOSING WORDS
RECESSIONAL MUSIC
Auld Lang Syne – John McDermott
Should auld acquaintance be forgot,
And never brought to mind?
Should auld acquaintance be forgot,
And days o’ auld lang syne!
For auld lang syne, my dear,
For auld lang syne.
We’ll tak a cup o’ kindness yet,
For auld lang syne.
Friday 4 July 2014
the funeral
we held the funeral on Friday at 1pm at "The Pines" which is lovely place with views out into the cook straight and on a clear day like it was on Friday you can see the south island it was so bright so some of the photos are a bit over processed to make this as viewable as possible
this is the view looking out over houghton bay and across to the south island including the snow capped Kaikoura Ranges it was a cold but stunningly clear day
Mum want to make sure people knew Dad still loved Scotland, so since Dad wouldn't let us find his two flags, we printed out this sticker for him instead, the flowers on top are the ones from his family in Scotland ( front ones) and a wreath from mums work, and in the background is the picture mum got done for dad's 60 of him and a elephant fish he caught off oriental bay see below aswell
Dad was carried out to Auld Lang Syne, on the left front to back are Aaron Muir a work mate of dad's, Bob Wilson, friend of mum and dad's and Dave Powells who worked at Fletchers as well and is the husband of one of Heathers workmates on the right front to back are Colin, Heather's partner, Dean, Husband of Heathers best friend and Jack our next door neighbour ( who is at his first non Jewish funeral) at the very back is the celebrant who did a wonderful job
Dad chose to be cremated and it was something we didn't wish to see we just wanted to remember the Man he was before M.N.D so with the sun shining brightly he was placed in the hearse and farewelled
Les McKay 1944 to 2014
Dad's passing was peaceful and we are greatfull that he is no longer suffering from that stupid M.N.D , we are thankful for everyone who came into our lives and helped us care for dad just to name a few below
Dr Janet Turnbull and her associate Selena
Moira and field worker for the assoc,
Finoa the phyiso
Steph the occupation therapist
Liz the district nurse
Liz the other district nurse
Nola the dietistian
Levy the carer
Val and Biannca the speech therapist
Wendy and all the Mary potter hospice staff
Lorraine and Kevin
we also want to thank our works for being so under standing and supportive
Dr Janet Turnbull and her associate Selena
Moira and field worker for the assoc,
Finoa the phyiso
Steph the occupation therapist
Liz the district nurse
Liz the other district nurse
Nola the dietistian
Levy the carer
Val and Biannca the speech therapist
Wendy and all the Mary potter hospice staff
Lorraine and Kevin
we also want to thank our works for being so under standing and supportive
june part 3
on Tuesday the 24th June, dad was meant to get his motorised wheelchair that didn't happen as M.N.D had other plans, we had just started overnight feeds though the peg and this morning dad was having a huge choking and coughing fit, the district nurse had been to give us some equipment for in case the peg tube came out and also to check a pressure sore that was starting to form,
she had just left when dad had another fit, I managed to calm down and then Steph the OT turned up with his chair and together we decided that dad should go to the hospital, the ambulance was called once again and the ambo was also called Les McKay with family from cathiness region.
we were in the er for about 4 hours while they arranged a room at the hospice for dad, an aorund 7pm we were transferred there,
while at the hospice they put dad on morphine for the cough ( amazing stuff stopped the cough almost completely) and then on Buscopan which help really well in drying up the saliva .
on Thursday the radiologist had had a chance to look at dad's xray from the er on Tuesday and noted that a small part of the back of dad's lung had collapsed and might have started a bit of an infection so he was put on another round of antibiotics, he was also given a driver ( a piece of equipment that pushes a syringe down slowly to release medicine) and was taken off night feeding after another round of coughing and choking
thins were looking better till sunday when he really when down hill after another coughing fit
we started a Liverpool care pathway ( form of standardised care for those in their last days) about what we would like to happen between now and his passing and then after his passing
we all sat with day all of Monday with mum staying the whole night and then again on Tuesday till he passed around 215 in the afternoon
she had just left when dad had another fit, I managed to calm down and then Steph the OT turned up with his chair and together we decided that dad should go to the hospital, the ambulance was called once again and the ambo was also called Les McKay with family from cathiness region.
we were in the er for about 4 hours while they arranged a room at the hospice for dad, an aorund 7pm we were transferred there,
while at the hospice they put dad on morphine for the cough ( amazing stuff stopped the cough almost completely) and then on Buscopan which help really well in drying up the saliva .
on Thursday the radiologist had had a chance to look at dad's xray from the er on Tuesday and noted that a small part of the back of dad's lung had collapsed and might have started a bit of an infection so he was put on another round of antibiotics, he was also given a driver ( a piece of equipment that pushes a syringe down slowly to release medicine) and was taken off night feeding after another round of coughing and choking
thins were looking better till sunday when he really when down hill after another coughing fit
we started a Liverpool care pathway ( form of standardised care for those in their last days) about what we would like to happen between now and his passing and then after his passing
we all sat with day all of Monday with mum staying the whole night and then again on Tuesday till he passed around 215 in the afternoon
june part 3 M.N.D week
so on the 22nd we were going to take part in the 10km walk around the bays as part of the Wellington marathon, but dad was still having breathing issues so we ended up not going, but here is the link to the facebook of the M.N.D assoc and if you scroll down (dated 25th June) you find photos of the rest of the group at the race https://www.facebook.com/mndanz?hc_location=timeline
june part 2
we got assessed for care in June, dad was to get 1 hour of care a day, this was to wash shave change and get him up if he wanted it, at first it was one of the lovely district nurses who came up and dad seem to be ok with her, then we got a access carer who was quite rough to the point where we think he was the reason dad and a third hospital visit due to there being a great deal of blood in his uridome ( its a pee bag but instead of the tube going inside the penis, the tube attaches to a condom instead ), he was checked out and everything looked ok so was sent home.
the carer came back the 2 days later and 30minutes after he left the new uridome had come off and leaked every where and I had to figure out how to put on a new one and then change all the sheets not fun esp when dad didn't want to get out of the bed
it was during the care assessment that we found out dad hadn't been taking his meds for about 6 weeks so after the monthly meeting we went to see dad's doctor who was happy with dad's stats that he cancelled all the med expect the M.N.D related ones
we didn't stay long at the meeting as the rest home its held at decided to have all the heating turned right up so the room was super stuffy
we also met the hospice lady, and we thought about arranging respite care for dad so mum and I could have a break and rest, respite care is where they go to the hospice every 6 to 8 weeks for a week and can get meds if they need some and the carers can have a break and take time to relax and not have to worry
the carer came back the 2 days later and 30minutes after he left the new uridome had come off and leaked every where and I had to figure out how to put on a new one and then change all the sheets not fun esp when dad didn't want to get out of the bed
it was during the care assessment that we found out dad hadn't been taking his meds for about 6 weeks so after the monthly meeting we went to see dad's doctor who was happy with dad's stats that he cancelled all the med expect the M.N.D related ones
we didn't stay long at the meeting as the rest home its held at decided to have all the heating turned right up so the room was super stuffy
we also met the hospice lady, and we thought about arranging respite care for dad so mum and I could have a break and rest, respite care is where they go to the hospice every 6 to 8 weeks for a week and can get meds if they need some and the carers can have a break and take time to relax and not have to worry
june part 1
June 2014 part one
this month was was the most Horrible month,
first off on Thursday just before queens birthday week end here dad decided to tell us he was having breathing problems, so we ended up call the ambulance again and ended up having a 3 day stay in hospital due to a possible lung infection, they gave him so antibiotics and fluids as he was also dehydrated from not being able to drink enough,
the following week he got to have his peg operation which was meant to be an in and out on the same day event, but due to waits ended up in another overnight stay for dehydration. the little patch behind his ear is a sick sicken patch which is meant to help dry up all the saliva, he had been trying to drink this product
but had been getting bad coughing and choking fits and found that the peg made it easier to give dad enough fluid and calories with the main to put some weight back on he is about 72kg in this photo all seem to be going ok at this time
and we had just got the news that a motorised wheel chair was arriving for dad in a week or 2
this month was was the most Horrible month,
first off on Thursday just before queens birthday week end here dad decided to tell us he was having breathing problems, so we ended up call the ambulance again and ended up having a 3 day stay in hospital due to a possible lung infection, they gave him so antibiotics and fluids as he was also dehydrated from not being able to drink enough,
the following week he got to have his peg operation which was meant to be an in and out on the same day event, but due to waits ended up in another overnight stay for dehydration. the little patch behind his ear is a sick sicken patch which is meant to help dry up all the saliva, he had been trying to drink this product but had been getting bad coughing and choking fits and found that the peg made it easier to give dad enough fluid and calories with the main to put some weight back on he is about 72kg in this photo all seem to be going ok at this time
and we had just got the news that a motorised wheel chair was arriving for dad in a week or 2
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